What Do I Say?
The church is a community, and much of the work of a community is done in conversation. A lot of what we do in church involves talking to each other!
Sometimes we’re so afraid of saying the wrong thing that we turn away, say nothing—and miss a chance to connect.
Ironically, this often happens when we most want connection. Here is a very common situation:
In worship, I see someone I don’t recognize. I want to be welcoming and inviting. But last time I welcomed someone I thought was a visitor, it turned out to be a lifelong member, and they seemed very offended. I don’t want that to happen again. What do I say?
Here are three suggestions from members of the congregation:
- Extend your hand and say your own name. This invites a response without indicating any assumptions about “member” or “visitor.” You’re simply indicating that you don’t know the person’s name, and you’re offering yours as a way of starting the conversation.
- Extend your hand and say, “It was a pleasure worshipping with you today.” You can use this in conjunction with number 1, or all by itself. Again, it does not presume the other person is a visitor.
- Extend your hand and say, “Remind me.” This is a way of acknowledging that you may have met (but humbly confessing that you don’t remember the name). If the person is visiting for the first time, or has never met you, they will tell you so and introduce themselves.
What if the shoe is on the other foot? Imagine this situation:
I am a lifelong member of Home Church, but last week in worship, someone came up to me and said, “Welcome to our church, I’m so glad you’re visiting.” How should I respond?
With a smile! Then shake the person’s hand, introduce yourself, and say, “Actually, I’m a member, but you have just made me very proud of Home Church. Thank you for being welcoming to someone you had not met. I’m glad to meet you now!”
Either way, whatever you say, you can’t go wrong with this big finish:
“And I’m headed for coffee fellowship. Would you like to join me?”
Enjoy your conversation!
- Home Is... event THIS Sunday
- Learn to play a band instrument!
- Chili Luncheon coming up
- HMC nights at Samaritan Inn
- Senior Friends
- Unleash your power: Women's Conference in June
- Diggs-Latham Holiday Store a success
- More links: CE schedule, music, birthdays, Ash Wednesday/Lenten services, much Provincial news
Join us immediately following worship Sunday, Feb. 10, for an Asset Mapping exercise that is part of our larger planning process. We’ll explore our congregation’s identity, gifts, and resources for outreach and ministry. Lunch and childcare will be provided.
Next event is March 17. Read more about that and the Home Is... visioning process.
Home Moravian Church is presenting a new and unique opportunity to learn to play a musical instrument and be taught by professional musicians here at the Church. The classes are free and will have low teacher to student ratios. Classes are open to all ages.
The World Mission Team’s Chili Luncheon will be Sunday Feb. 17 Noon to 1:00 p.m. in the Fellowship Hall. Donations accepted.
Take-outs available after 11:00 a.m. for $10 quart. Take-outs can be pre-ordered by calling the church office.
Proceeds will support World Mission projects.Call Mallie Graham, 336-924-9409, with any questions.
Home Church nights at Samaritan Inn will be April 26, 27 and 28.
This is a good time to work with fellow Home Church members and to enjoy the company of the guests at Samaritan Inn. Report by 6:15 p.m., finished by 7 a.m.
If you have questions, please contact Nat Watson at 336-761-8228.
The Senior Friends of Home Church will meet on February 21 at noon in the Parlor. Please bring a dish for a pot luck lunch. Rick Sides will share with the group about his recent trip to the Holy Land. Any Senior Friends, who have been on the trip, are encouraged to bring any memorabilia that you have.
Every six months we select a charitable cause to receive our table offerings. This six-month-period our offering will go to the Children's Nutrition Program in Auhas, Honduras. The program committee is working hard to plan interesting, entertaining, and educational programs for the year 2019. We welcome new members and would be glad to have you join us.
—Hessie Williams, Chair
“Glory to God, who is able to do far beyond all we could ask or imagine by his power at work within us.” Ephesians 3:20
June 20-23, Embassy Suites, Winston-Salem
This Conference offers an opportunity for Moravian women to learn, worship, sing and share ideas that strengthen faith and ties to the Moravian Church. During general sessions and “Imagine Sessions” (workshops), keynote speakers and workshop leaders will inform and challenge each participant to confidently live into the plan God has for her.
Featuring best-selling author Rachel Held Evans plus Bishop Kay Ward, the Rev. Dr. Heather Vacek and the Rev. Christie Melby-Gibbons.
Presented by the Interprovincial Women’s Board, Moravian Church in North America
Register today at www.moravianwomensconference.org.
The Diggs-Latham Holiday Store was a huge success! All students and staff were excited to be able to choose a gift for a loved one. This was possible because of your generous donations. Thank you! Thanks also to those who worked helping students shop, making the gift tag, and wrapping each gift. Your time and positive attitude enriched all our lives. The plan is to continue this new tradition and have the store again next year. We have a good start with saved left over items but we will certainly need more. Start saving now and we can pick up anytime you need us.
Watching the excitement on the faces of all the children was a blessing. Thank you again for helping make this possible!
—Chris Puryear, Coordinator
Where Do You Turn When You Are Troubled?
Concert is free, donations accepted
And help I.D. faces, places in old photos
Choir, Men's Chorus, Band, BellChor
Around the Salem Congregation
2019 budget, board considering police officer on Sundays, Central Board appointee, sacristans, new members, new narrative lectionary trial proposed
Check-in, dinner and overnight assignments available
Show & Sale to raise funds for Albania
Lunchtime Lecture, February 14, 12:15 pm, Archie K. Davis Center, Recovering the Second St. Philips Graveyard with the Salem Congregation Graveyard Committee.
You are invited to an Alaskan Salmon Dinner at New Philadelphia Moravian Church on March 23 at 5:30 p.m. in support of the Alaska Bible Seminary. There is no cost, but a love offering will be received. Ed Dehnert, Dean of the Seminary, will speak. Please RSVP to Sheila Beaman at the Mission Office at 336-773-1732 or email@example.com by March 4, 2019.
Aging Well Conference, Saturday, March 30, 2019 at Trinity Moravian Church – The Aging Well Team helps congregations recognize the need for and then find meaningful ways of providing programming and resources for their members who are older adults, as they age and deal with a variety of challenges.
June 25- July 2, 2019 | Moravian Young Adult Convo | US Virgin Islands – Join other young adults from across the Northern and Southern provinces in this once in a lifetime trip. Walk in the steps of the first Moravian missionaries and explore our "roots" while spending time doing hands on mission work. For more information visit Moravian.Online/ConvoRegistration or contact Hanna Jackson.
Board of World Mission
Did you know…. that the Board of World Mission each year receives applications to fund a wide variety of projects around the world? In 2018, thanks to contributions from congregations and generous donors, the BWM has distributed more than $40,000 in Mission Grants that fund projects in the areas of Leadership Development and Sustainable Ministries. If you want to support projects developed by global partners that match the priorities of the mission work of the Moravian Church in North America, a gift to the BWM designated for "Mission Grants" is a great way to help grow our impact in this area! www.moravianmission.org/give
The next ACAP (Adult Children of Aging Parents) program will be held Tuesday, February 19 at 5:30-7:00 pm in the Fellowship Hall of Knollwood Baptist Church, 330 Knollwood St. The program will be “Housing Options for Seniors – Public and Private” and the speakers are Sandra S. Rinaldi, MS, LPC , V.P. of Aging Resources and Crystal L. Norman, MHA, Program Coordinator for Elder Care Choices, Senior Services, Inc. Reservations appreciated but not required. Phone us at: (336) 652-0474 for RSVP (leave a message).
Music on the Mountain – A Moravian Music Weekend of Choral and Band Music – February 22-24, at Higgins Lodge, Laurel Ridge. Participate by singing, playing, or simply listening! Contact LR at 336-359-2951, moravianmusic.org or laurelridge.org for more information.
Leadership Focus – Saturday, February 23, Calvary Moravian Church, Won’t You Be My Neighbor? Building Christian Community in the 21st Century – Being the church in the twenty-first century calls us to new challenges and demands greater commitment and understanding of our faith and action. This year, we’ll explore ways we as Moravian Christians can truly “be neighbor” in our local communities and the world. How can Moravians serve as neighbors in ways that enrich our spiritual lives, congregational lives, and mission in the world? What does being missional really look like today? What is God calling us to do or be in the 21st century? A day of learning and fellowship, Leadership Focus provides education, training, and discussion opportunities for Southern Province Moravians.
The Shepherd’s Center of Greater Winston-Salem will hold its 31st Annual Used Book Sale on Thursday, May 2 and Friday, May 3 from 9 am to 9 pm, and on Saturday, May 4 from 8 am to 2 pm. On Saturday all items are ½ price. Parking and Admission are FREE! The sale will be held in the Education Building at the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds. Entrance for parking is through Gate 5 from Deacon Blvd. There is no admission or parking fee. There will be thousands of used books and other items on hand at exceptional prices.
The Shepherd’s Center is an interfaith ministry whose mission is to support and promote successful aging through direct services, educational, volunteer and support programs for older adults. During 2018 over 400 volunteers provided in excess of 40,000 hours of service in our community. The Faith In Action Care Program, staffed predominantly with volunteers, served the needs of over 2,100 individuals and families during the year while responding to over 4,200 transportation and 700 minor home repair requests. Attendance of over 32,000 was recorded in the wide variety of daily health and wellness programs and activities offered through our Vital Living Senior Center Program.
Sunnyside Ministry is entering into a partnership with Easton Elementary School. This partnership will be a sharing of clothing for elementary age children.
- Acceptable clothing (sizes 5-18) to fit elementary age students
- Jeans, corduroys and khakis with no rips
- T-shirts, polos (long and short sleeve) t-shirts with appropriate designs. NO GANG, ALCOHOL or TOBACCO language
- Shorts – Jean, khaki and athletic – NO EXTREMELY SHORT pants
- Leggings for girls
- Shoes and underwear for elementary age children
- Coats and hoodies
2019 Daily Texts
Books have arrived and may be purchased in the church office during office hours.
- Paperback – $9
- Hardback – $13
- Large print – $11
- Journal – $14.00